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| Masturbation is mostly seen in adolesence period as they want to satisfy their sexual needs. It is for self pleasure(sexual pleasure using with own or others hands i.e no ni penil - vag-inal penetration). Well Masturbation deal with your thinking. There is nothing written about masturbation | | '''Masturbation''' is mostly seen during the adolescence period as this is the period when the newly discovered natural sexual sensations of the body first need to be satisfied; as the person may not have a partner, one of the options available is to resort to masturbation. It is a function which provides self pleasure (sexual pleasure using ones own or others hands i.e without penile - vag|nal penetration). |
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| But their is written about thoughts and thinkings. Masturbation occurs there where [[kam]]/lust/sexual desire is. While masturbate thinking is wrong. You are thinking about some girl/boy wrongly
| | [[Gurbani]] does not address this topic directly but various passages deal with sexual desire, with lust, with the concept of thinking about sex, etc. Masturbation usually occurs as a result of [[kam]]/lust/sexual desire and maximum comes when mind is empty. If there is no sexual desire in one's mind, it is unlikely that the person would resort to masturbation. The action of masturbation is sparked off due to sexual thoughts in one's mind. Sexual thoughts if unchecked can lead to this type of activity. Masturbation is not Bujjer Kurehit but it is not spoken as part of Rehat. |
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| If virginity looses through masturbation then it is also a sin as your thinkings must be wrong at that time
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| <blockquote>ਇਸ ਤਨ ਮਨ ਮਧੇ ਮਦਨ ਚੋਰ ॥<br>
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| इसढ़ तन मन मधे मदन चोर ॥<br>
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| is tan man maDhay madan chor.<br>
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| Within the body and mind are thieves like sexual desire.<br>
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| [[Kabir|Bhagat Kabir]](Ang 1194, line 14)</blockquote>
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| The thief of sexual desire leads to masturbation
| | Below are quotations from the [[Guru Granth Sahib]] which address the issues relating to sex and sexual desire ([[Kam]]) and other such topics. It is clear from these verses that the need to check one's sexual desire is a necessary requirement of a [[Sikh]]. |
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| <blockquote>ਬੂਝੀ ਤਰਿਸਨਾ ਸਹਜਿ ਸਹੇਲਾ ਕਾਮ ਕਰੋਧ ਬਿਖ ਜਾਰੋ ॥<br>
| | ===Thieves of the mind and body=== |
| बूझी तढ़रिसना सहजि सढ़हेला कामढ़ कढ़रोधढ़ बिखढ़ जारो ॥<br>
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| boojhee tarisnaa sahj suhaylaa kaam kroDh bikh jaaro.<br>
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| My thirst is quenched, and I have been intuitively embellished. <br>
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| The poisons of sexual desire and anger have been burnt away.<br>
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| [[Guru Arjan Dev]](Ang 1215, line 2)</blockquote>
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| Masturbation not only burns your spiritual life but also destroy you physically.
| | This [[tuk]] below tells us that within the body and mind are present "thieves" like sexual desire: |
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| ===What Science Says??===
| | {{Srigranth|1194|51605| [[Kabir|Bhagat Kabir]] (Ang 1194, line 14) |
| ====Masturbation Is Not Safe====
| | <big>ਇਸੁ ਤਨ ਮਨ ਮਧੇ ਮਦਨ ਚੋਰ ॥ </big><br> |
| | is tan man maDhay madan chor.<br> |
| | Within the body and mind are thieves like sexual desire |
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| It makes you weak. it can lead to both psychological and physiological imbalances. Frequent masturbation and ejaculation stimulate acetylcholine/parasympathetic nervous functions excessively, resulting in the over production of sex hormones and neurotransmitters such as acetylcholine, dopamine and serotonin. Abundant and unusually amount of these hormones and neurotransmitters can cause the brain and adrenal glands to perform excessive dopamine-norepinephrine-epinephrine conversion and turn the brain and body functions to be extremely sympathetic. In other words, there is a big change of body chemistry when one excessively pratices masturbation.
| | <big>ਜਿਨਿ ਗਿਆਨ ਰਤਨੁ ਹਿਰਿ ਲੀਨ ਮੋਰ ॥ </big><br> |
| | Jin gi▫ān raṯan hir līn mor.<br> |
| | which has stolen my jewel of spiritual wisdom.}} |
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| '''The side effects of such changes to the body include:'''
| | It can be seen from this [[shabad]] that these thieves are a natural phenomena; the presence of sexual thoughts and desires is a function that is present in the minds of most people. If unchecked, these thieves will overpower the person's mind and consequently, the person's spiritual evolution will be sacrificed. If the thief of sexual desire is not restrained, it will leads to masturbation. |
| Fatigue. Feeling tired all the time
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| Lower back pain
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| Stress / Anxiety
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| Thinning hair / Hair Loss
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| Soft / Weak Erection
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| Premature Ejaculation
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| Eye floaters or fuzzy vision
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| Groin / Testicular Pain
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| Peyronie's disease
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| Pain or cramp in the pelvic cavity or/and tail bone
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| ====Self-Control Guidance for Masturbation ==== | | ===Naam is far but other tastes seem sweet=== |
| This is copied from some website and this is useful method and sikhism encourage those things which help others so salute to that man who wrote the following suggestions
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| 1. Never touch the intimate parts of your body except during normal toilet processes. Avoid being alone as much as possible. Find good company and stay in this good company.
| | In this [[Shabad]], the Guru tells us that if one does not control the mind, the mind can get engrossed in various worldly desires like sexual desire and if this is allowed to dominate the mind, it will lead to the person becoming blind to [[Naam]], the name of the Lord. |
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| 2. If you are associated with other persons having this same problem, you must break off their friendship. Never associate with other people having the same weakness. Don't suppose that two of you will quit together, you never will. You must get away from people of that kind. Just to be in their presence will keep your problem foremost in your mind. The problem must be taken out of your mind for that is where it really exists. Your mind must be on other and more wholesome things.
| | {{Quoter2s|<big>ਅਹਿਨਿਸਿ ਕਾਮਿ ਵਿਆਪਿਆ ਵਣਜਾਰਿਆ ਮਿਤ੍ਰਾ ਅੰਧੁਲੇ ਨਾਮੁ ਨ ਚਿਤਿ ॥ </big><br> |
| | Ahinis kām vi▫āpi▫ā vaṇjāri▫ā miṯrā anḏẖule nām na cẖiṯ.<br> |
| | Day and night, you are engrossed in sexual desire, O my merchant friend, and your consciousness is blind to the Naam.<br> |
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| 3. When you bathe, do not admire yourself in a mirror. Never stay in the bath more than five or six minutes -- just long enough to bathe and dry and dress and then get out of the bathroom into a room where you will have some member of your family present.
| | <big>ਰਾਮ ਨਾਮੁ ਘਟ ਅੰਤਰਿ ਨਾਹੀ ਹੋਰਿ ਜਾਣੈ ਰਸ ਕਸ ਮੀਠੇ ॥</big><br> |
| | Rām nām gẖat anṯar nāhī hor jāṇai ras kas mīṯẖe.<br> |
| | The Lord's Name is not within your heart, but all sorts of other tastes seem sweet to you.|75|3060}} |
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| 4. When in bed, if that is where you have your problem for the most part, dress yourself for the night so securely that you cannot easily touch your vital parts, and so that it would be difficult and time consuming for you to remove those clothes. By the time you started to remove protective clothing you would have sufficiently controlled your thinking that the temptation would leave you.
| | As a result, the person will develop a taste for worldly enjoyments and forget about God, the Creator and Provider. |
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| 5. If the temptation seems overpowering while you are in bed, get out of bed and go into the kitchen and fix yourself a snack, even if it is in the middle of the night, and even if you are not hungry, and despite your fears of gaining weight. The purpose behind this suggestion is that you get your mind on something else. You are the subject of your thoughts, so to speak.
| | ===Abandoning ones life partner=== |
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| 6. Never read pornographic material. Never read about your problem. Keep it out of mind. Remember -- "First a thought, then an act." The thought pattern must be changed. You must not allow this problem to remain in your mind. When you accomplish that, you soon will be free of the act.
| | In the following [[Shabad]]s, the Guru clarifies the need to restrain ones sexual relations to just ones partner and not to allow your thoughts to wonder outside the one and only sexual relationship that is allowed in [[Sikhism]]. |
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| 7. Put wholesome thoughts into your mind at all times. Read good books -- HOly books -- Scriptures -- etc. Make a daily habit of reading at least one chapter of Scripture, preferably from one of the four Gospels in the New Testament, or the Book of Mormon. The four Gospels -- Matthew, Mark, Luke and John -- above anything else in the Bible can be helpful because of their uplifting qualities.
| | {{Quoter2s|<big>ਹਾਥ ਕਮੰਡਲੁ ਕਾਪੜੀਆ ਮਨਿ ਤ੍ਰਿਸਨਾ ਉਪਜੀ ਭਾਰੀ ॥</big><br> |
| | Hāth kamandal kāpṛī▫ā man ṯarisnā upjī bẖārī.<br> |
| | With bowl in hand, wearing his patched coat, great desires well up in his mind.<br> |
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| 8. Pray. But when you pray, don't pray about this problem, for that will tend to keep it in your mind more than ever. Pray for faith, pray for understanding of the Scriptures, pray for the Missionaries, the General Authorities, your friends, your families, but keep the problem out of your mind by not mentioning it ever -- not in conversation with others, not in your prayers. keep it out of your mind!
| | <big>ਇਸਤ੍ਰੀ ਤਜਿ ਕਰਿ ਕਾਮਿ ਵਿਆਪਿਆ ਚਿਤੁ ਲਾਇਆ ਪਰ ਨਾਰੀ ॥</big><br> |
| | Isṯarī ṯaj kar kām vi▫āpi▫ā cẖiṯ lā▫i▫ā par nārī.<br> |
| | Abandoning his own wife, he is engrossed in sexual desire; his thoughts are on the wives of others.|1013|43322}} |
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| The attitude of a person toward his problem has an effect on how easy it is to overcome. It is essential that a firm commitment be made to control the habit. As a person understands his reasons for the behavior, and is sensitive to the conditions or situations that may trigger a desire for the act, he develops the power to control it.
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| ====Suggestions====
| | The Guru states that promiscuous behavior will bring painful diseases to the person. |
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| 1. Pray daily, ask for the gifts of the Spirit, that which will strengthen you against temptation. Pray fervently and out lout when the temptations are the strongest.
| | {{Quoter2s|<big>ਭੋਗੀ ਕਉ ਦੁਖੁ ਰੋਗ ਵਿਆਪੈ ॥</big><br> |
| | Bẖogī kao ḏukẖ rog viāpai. <br> |
| | Painful diseases afflict those who are sexually promiscuous.|1189|51353}} |
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| 2. Follow a program of vigorous daily exercise. The exercises reduce emotional tension and depression and are absolutely basic to the solution of this problem. Double your physical activity when you feel stress increasing.
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| 3. When the temptation to masturbate is strong, yell STOP to those thoughts as loudly as you can in your mind and then recite a prechosen Scripture or sing an inspirational hymn. It is important to turn your thoughts away from the selfish need to indulge.
| | <blockquote>ਬੂਝੀ ਤ੍ਰਿਸਨਾ ਸਹਜਿ ਸੁਹੇਲਾ ਕਾਮੁ ਕ੍ਰੋਧੁ ਬਿਖੁ ਜਾਰੋ ॥॥<br> |
| | | Būjẖī ṯarisnā sahj suhelā kām kroḏẖ bikẖ jāro.<br> |
| 4. Set goals of abstinence, begin with a day, then a week, month, year and finally commit to never doing it again. Until you commit yourself to _never again_ you will always be open to temptation.
| | My thirst is quenched, and I have been intuitively embellished. <br> |
| | | The poisons of sexual desire and anger have been burnt away.<br> |
| 5. Change in behavior and attitude is most easily achieved through a changed self-image. Spend time every day imagining yourself strong and in control, easily overcoming tempting situations.
| | [[Guru Arjan Dev]](Ang 1215, line 2) {{sref2|1215|52328}}</blockquote> |
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| 6. Begin to work daily on a self-improvement program. Relate this plan to improving your Church service, to improving your relationships with your family, God and others. Strive to enhance your strengths and talents.
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| 7. Be outgoing and friendly. Force yourself to be with others and learn to enjoy working and talking to them. Use principles of developing friendships found in books such as How to Win Friends and Influence People by Dale Carnegie.
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| 8. Be aware of situations that depress you or that cause you to feel lonely, bored, frustrated or discouraged. These emotional states can trigger the desire to masturbate as a way of escape. Plan in advance to counter these low periods through various activities, such as reading a book, visiting a friend, doing something athletic, etc.
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| 9. Make a pocket calendar for a month on a small card. Carry it with you, but show it to no one. If you have a lapse of self control, color the day black. Your goal will be to have no black days. The calendar becomes a strong visual reminder of self control and should be looked at when you are tempted to add another black day. Keep your calendar up until you have at least three clear months.
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| 10. A careful study will indicate you have had the problem at certain times and under certain conditions. Try and recall, in detail, what your particular times and conditions were. Now that you understand how it happens, plan to break the pattern through counter activities.
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| 11. In the field of psychotherapy there is a very effective technique called aversion therapy. When we associate or think of something very distasteful with something which has been pleasurable, but undesirable, the distasteful thought and feeling will begin to cancel out that which was pleasurable. If you associate something very distasteful with your loss of self-control it will help you to stop the act. For example, if you are tempted to masturbate, think of having to bathe in a tub of worms, and eating several of them as you do the act.
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| 12. During your toileting and shower activities leave the bathroom door or shower curtain partly open, to discourage being alone in total privacy. Take cool brief showers.
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| 13. Arise immediately in the mornings. Do not lie in bed awake, no matter what time of day it is. Get up and do something. Start each day with an enthusiastic activity.
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| 15. Reduce the amount of spices and condiments in your food. Eat as lightly as possible at night.
| | Masturbation not only burns your spiritual life but fails to provide any long term satisfaction for the mind. The Guru tells us that the thirst of the mind and body cannot be quenched by worldly pleasures; these are "poisons" and so best subdued and controlled as far as possible. |
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| 16. Wear pajamas that are difficult to open, yet loose and not binding.
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| 17. Avoid people, situations, pictures or reading materials that might create sexual excitement.
| | * [[Guru Granth Sahib against lust]] |
| | * [[Kam]] |
| | * [[Five evils]] |
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| 18. It is sometimes helpful to have a physical object to use in overcoming this problem. A Book of Mormon, firmly held in hand, even in bed at night has proven helpful in extreme cases.
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| 19. In very severe cases it may be necessary to tie a hand to the bed frame with a tie in order that the habit of masturbating in a semi-sleep condition can be broken. This can also be accomplished by wearing several layers of clothing which would be difficult to remove while half asleep.
| | * [http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Masturbation Wikipedia] |
| | * [http://doctor.ndtv.com/topicdetails/ndtv/tid/417/Masturbation.html What is masturbation?] |
| | * [[http://teenadvice.about.com/library/bl10thingsmasturbation.htm Top 10 Fact Sheet on Masturbation] |
| | * [http://abchomeopathy.com/forum2.php/105895/ MASTURBATION a scientific paper] |
| | * [http://www.wgs.clahs.vt.edu/course/sub/masturbation.html Steps in Overcoming Masturbation] |
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| 20. Set up a reward system for your successes. It does not have to be a big reward. A quarter in a receptacle each time you overcome or reach a goal. Spend it on something which delights you and will be a continuing reminder of your progress.
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| 21. Do not let yourself return to any past habit or attitude patterns which were part of your problem. Satan never gives up. Be calmly and confidently on guard. Keep a positive mental attitude. You can win this fight! The joy and strength you will feel when you do will give your whole life a radiant and spiritual glow of satisfaction and fulfillment.
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Masturbation is mostly seen during the adolescence period as this is the period when the newly discovered natural sexual sensations of the body first need to be satisfied; as the person may not have a partner, one of the options available is to resort to masturbation. It is a function which provides self pleasure (sexual pleasure using ones own or others hands i.e without penile - vag|nal penetration).
Gurbani does not address this topic directly but various passages deal with sexual desire, with lust, with the concept of thinking about sex, etc. Masturbation usually occurs as a result of kam/lust/sexual desire and maximum comes when mind is empty. If there is no sexual desire in one's mind, it is unlikely that the person would resort to masturbation. The action of masturbation is sparked off due to sexual thoughts in one's mind. Sexual thoughts if unchecked can lead to this type of activity. Masturbation is not Bujjer Kurehit but it is not spoken as part of Rehat.
Gurbani
Below are quotations from the Guru Granth Sahib which address the issues relating to sex and sexual desire (Kam) and other such topics. It is clear from these verses that the need to check one's sexual desire is a necessary requirement of a Sikh.
Thieves of the mind and body
This tuk below tells us that within the body and mind are present "thieves" like sexual desire:
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| Bhagat Kabir (Ang 1194, line 14)
ਇਸੁ ਤਨ ਮਨ ਮਧੇ ਮਦਨ ਚੋਰ ॥
is tan man maDhay madan chor.
Within the body and mind are thieves like sexual desire
ਜਿਨਿ ਗਿਆਨ ਰਤਨੁ ਹਿਰਿ ਲੀਨ ਮੋਰ ॥
Jin gi▫ān raṯan hir līn mor.
which has stolen my jewel of spiritual wisdom.
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It can be seen from this shabad that these thieves are a natural phenomena; the presence of sexual thoughts and desires is a function that is present in the minds of most people. If unchecked, these thieves will overpower the person's mind and consequently, the person's spiritual evolution will be sacrificed. If the thief of sexual desire is not restrained, it will leads to masturbation.
Naam is far but other tastes seem sweet
In this Shabad, the Guru tells us that if one does not control the mind, the mind can get engrossed in various worldly desires like sexual desire and if this is allowed to dominate the mind, it will lead to the person becoming blind to Naam, the name of the Lord.
ਅਹਿਨਿਸਿ ਕਾਮਿ ਵਿਆਪਿਆ ਵਣਜਾਰਿਆ ਮਿਤ੍ਰਾ ਅੰਧੁਲੇ ਨਾਮੁ ਨ ਚਿਤਿ ॥
Ahinis kām vi▫āpi▫ā vaṇjāri▫ā miṯrā anḏẖule nām na cẖiṯ.
Day and night, you are engrossed in sexual desire, O my merchant friend, and your consciousness is blind to the Naam.
ਰਾਮ ਨਾਮੁ ਘਟ ਅੰਤਰਿ ਨਾਹੀ ਹੋਰਿ ਜਾਣੈ ਰਸ ਕਸ ਮੀਠੇ ॥
Rām nām gẖat anṯar nāhī hor jāṇai ras kas mīṯẖe.
The Lord's Name is not within your heart, but all sorts of other tastes seem sweet to you.
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As a result, the person will develop a taste for worldly enjoyments and forget about God, the Creator and Provider.
Abandoning ones life partner
In the following Shabads, the Guru clarifies the need to restrain ones sexual relations to just ones partner and not to allow your thoughts to wonder outside the one and only sexual relationship that is allowed in Sikhism.
ਹਾਥ ਕਮੰਡਲੁ ਕਾਪੜੀਆ ਮਨਿ ਤ੍ਰਿਸਨਾ ਉਪਜੀ ਭਾਰੀ ॥
Hāth kamandal kāpṛī▫ā man ṯarisnā upjī bẖārī.
With bowl in hand, wearing his patched coat, great desires well up in his mind.
ਇਸਤ੍ਰੀ ਤਜਿ ਕਰਿ ਕਾਮਿ ਵਿਆਪਿਆ ਚਿਤੁ ਲਾਇਆ ਪਰ ਨਾਰੀ ॥
Isṯarī ṯaj kar kām vi▫āpi▫ā cẖiṯ lā▫i▫ā par nārī.
Abandoning his own wife, he is engrossed in sexual desire; his thoughts are on the wives of others.
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Painful diseases
The Guru states that promiscuous behavior will bring painful diseases to the person.
ਭੋਗੀ ਕਉ ਦੁਖੁ ਰੋਗ ਵਿਆਪੈ ॥
Bẖogī kao ḏukẖ rog viāpai.
Painful diseases afflict those who are sexually promiscuous.
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Other Gurbani
ਬੂਝੀ ਤ੍ਰਿਸਨਾ ਸਹਜਿ ਸੁਹੇਲਾ ਕਾਮੁ ਕ੍ਰੋਧੁ ਬਿਖੁ ਜਾਰੋ ॥॥
Būjẖī ṯarisnā sahj suhelā kām kroḏẖ bikẖ jāro.
My thirst is quenched, and I have been intuitively embellished.
The poisons of sexual desire and anger have been burnt away.
Guru Arjan Dev(Ang 1215, line 2) (SGGS p1215)
Masturbation not only burns your spiritual life but fails to provide any long term satisfaction for the mind. The Guru tells us that the thirst of the mind and body cannot be quenched by worldly pleasures; these are "poisons" and so best subdued and controlled as far as possible.
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