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== Thank you for replying back to my email, I truly appreciate it. I am very grateful because you have taught me so much and that is something that I will never truly forget. I was also wondering that if god tells us that we should live a truthful life then how am i living a truthful life. God states that we should be honest and truthful, but I feel that I am not truthful and honest because I am not telling other people (family) the thoughts I get about harming others because I am afraid that they may dislike me,or that they might have negative thoughts towards me? The only person who knows about such thoughts are you and a psychiatrist that I see on a weekly basis. Am I living a honest and truthful life? I feel that I am not living a truthful and honest life because I am not telling other people how I feel inside and i'm not acting on those thoughts so that means that I am acting as a fake and not acting truthfully? In other words, I must be a fake person since I am not acting on my thoughts and I am not telling my family that I have these negative thoughts, so therefore I must be dishonest and fake?I hope you can reply back and thank you for everything that you have done for me words cannot express how grateful I feel that you have taken time out of your day to respond to my questions.

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Question: If we have negative thoughts about harming another person is it okay to do so? Do we have a free will or is it hukam from God that we should harm another person?

Reply: We have free will and accordingly we make numerous choices every few minutes; this is happening all the time and these decisions will result in our "karmas" and our karmas will governs what happens to us in the future. You cannot always control the thought that come to your mind - so if you have bad thoughts, don't blame yourself; it your mind playing tricks. But never follow any bad thoughts that you get in your mind. Your actions are under your control so exercise control and always act in a positive way. When you start acting positively, the "shataan" in the mind will be subdued and you will get less and less negative thoughts.

Live a positive life; do sewa and simran; remember God and less negative thoughts will come to the mind. I hope this short reply helps. Kind regards, Hari Singh^talk 21:22, 11 March 2013 (CDT)

Further thoughts - Reply to your question

Thank you for replying to my question quickly. I feel guilty doing simran because i feel as if gods bringing these thoughts to my mind about harming other people.Is god creating these thoughts?Am i in control of my own mind(free will)?Or is god in control of my mind and he creates such thoughts or any thoughts(both positive and negative thoughts)?The reason why i ask this is because people say that god does everything.i also feel guilty to do simran because i feel that maybe god is punishing me for doing bad deeds ,in my past life,and as a consequence, he is punishing me by making me have these thoughts.I am struggling with these thoughts and its hard for me to get these thoughts out of my head.

The mind is a tool; a melting pot; many thoughts will well up in the mind. From these thoughts one needs to make a choice. It is up to your will to exercise control and guide the mind in the right direction - only do those things that are right and lead you to a better and more sacred position. Here is where the guidance of the Guru is useful. Make your mind follow the path laid down by the Guru.

All sorts of thoughts come to everyone but the wise person will only select to follow the righteous path. The weak person or the devious person or the evil person will make the incorrect choice.

Yes, everything happens by the will of God. Earthquakes, tornado, tsunamis, etc all are the works of God. However, people commit murders, rapes and other crimes - God doesn't do these. Man has the ability to make a choice but many due to their own weaknesses cannot make the right choices.

However, even these crimes committed by mankind have been predicted by the saints; when one forgets the Lord, then he becomes weak. The Guru Granth Sahib tells us clearly that weak humans will not follow the path of Dharam (righteousness). [www.srigranth.org/servlet/gurbani.gurbani?Action=Page&Param=1362&english=t&id=58204 O Lord! When the mortal forgets the Lord of the Universe, the Sovereign Lord King, he grows weaker day by day. (14)]

So remember the supreme Lord and stay strong and allows try and make the right choices! Kind regards, Hari Singh^talk 00:16, 15 March 2013 (CDT)

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Thank you for replying back to my email, I truly appreciate it. I am very grateful because you have taught me so much and that is something that I will never truly forget. I was also wondering that if god tells us that we should live a truthful life then how am i living a truthful life. God states that we should be honest and truthful, but I feel that I am not truthful and honest because I am not telling other people (family) the thoughts I get about harming others because I am afraid that they may dislike me,or that they might have negative thoughts towards me? The only person who knows about such thoughts are you and a psychiatrist that I see on a weekly basis. Am I living a honest and truthful life? I feel that I am not living a truthful and honest life because I am not telling other people how I feel inside and i'm not acting on those thoughts so that means that I am acting as a fake and not acting truthfully? In other words, I must be a fake person since I am not acting on my thoughts and I am not telling my family that I have these negative thoughts, so therefore I must be dishonest and fake?I hope you can reply back and thank you for everything that you have done for me words cannot express how grateful I feel that you have taken time out of your day to respond to my questions.

Thank you for making me feel comfortable talking to you, I feel that you have immensely helped me.Thank you for giving me great advice as to how I can openly share my thoughts with other people whom I trust. I am glad that your learning something from me as well. I was a bit unclear about being truthful (Sat). So to make sure I am following you,an individual does not have to always tell/share with others what thoughts, or what actions that come to our mind to live a truthful life. Since we all have strange thoughts that come to all of us, we do not have to share every thought ,or actions that come to mind with others to live a truthful life (Sat)?We must also control any negative thoughts and actions, so that we do not take any wrong actions. I just felt that I was not being truthful, or real because I was not acting on the thoughts or actions that were coming to my mind.I was also wondering where do all of these thoughts come from in our mind both negative or positive? Do thoughts come from experiences, knowledge, and other stimuli in our environment?Thank you for everything once again, The advice and the knowledge you are giving me is something that I will never forget. May god bless you and make all of your wishes and dreams come true. Regards, Raj

Its a pleasure to answer your questions. I also learn from the thing that you tell me; so we are both gaining from the exercise.

Yes, you should be honest and truthful but that does not mean you go around telling everyone the password to your bank account! To be honest is not deceive another person; not to deliberately misguide another person; to not rob another person; to protect and guard anyone is weaker than you, etc. So if you are not transparent, it does not mean you are not honest. You don't tell your family because you do not want to hurt them - that is a good reason not to tell them.

The thoughts that you get in your mind are probably a result of insecurity or trauma or previous shock that you may have suffered; getting medical help is the first point of call. Follow their instructions. Modern medical solutions work most of the time. Dedicate your energy to the medical help that you are getting; work with these experts with vigor and strength.

Also form a bond with God. Everyday spend 5 to 10 minutes in meditation and yoga; learn to calm down the activity in your mind; connect with Gurbani and the Guru. In your heart do an ardas to God to ask for his help directly; be frank and passionate with your ardas; tell God you are His creation and you want his help resolving this problem. "God, I am your son, please help me; bring inner peace and calmness to my mind. Blow away all the negative thoughts"

Slowly your mind will start to have less and less negative thoughts. As this happens increase your connection with God; believe in the bani of Guru Nanak. Remind yourself how the power of bani was able to stop the huge mountain rock with the palm of the Guru's hand at Nankana Sahib.

Share your problem with one than two of your closest friends/family. But choose them careful - you want someone who will support you not create more pressure. First explain just a little of your minor thoughts; if they support you than slowly introduce more difficult issues but tread gentle and only move at a very gentle pace when you are certain and confident of their support.

If you select the right person to begin sharing your problem, you will find relief and the size of the problem in your mind will diminish very quickly.

May the Guru bless you. Kind Regards, Hari Singh^talk 20:29, 21 March 2013 (CDT)