The Sikh religion is one that believes and actively advocates family life and community cohesion. The family unit plays an important part in a viable happy and sustainable community. Respect for ones parents is an inherent part of good community relations. If a child cannot learn how to live amicable in a family situation and have a good and vibrant relationship with his or her parents then it follows that the person will not be able to live and have a positive contribution in a community. A community is a scaled up family unit; the behaviours and communication skills learnt in the family can equally well be applied to relations in a community situation.
Varan Bhai Gurdas
Vaar 37 Pauri 13: Pities of one who ill-treated the parents are in vain
ਮਾਂ ਪਿਉ ਪਰਹਰਿ ਸਣੈ ਵੇਦ ਭੇਦ ਨ ਜਾਣੈ ਕਥਾ ਕਹਾਣੀ
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maan piu parahari sunai vaydu bhaydu n jaanai kadaa kahaanee
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Renouncing the parents, the listener of Vedas cannot understand their mystery.
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ਮਾਂ ਪਿਉ ਪਰਹਰਿ ਕਰੈ ਤਪ ਵਣਖੰਡਿ ਭਲਾ ਫਿਰੈ ਬਿਬਾਣੀ
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maan piu parahari karai tapu vanakhandi bhulaa dhirai bibaanee
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Repudiating the parents, meditation in the forest is similar to the wanderings at deserted places.
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ਮਾਂ ਪਿਉ ਪਰਹਰਿ ਕਰੈ ਪੂਜ ਦੇਵੀ ਦੇਵ ਨ ਸੇਵ ਕਮਾਣੀ
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maan piu parahari karai pooju dayvee dayv n sayv kamaanee
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The service and worship to the gods and goddesses are useless if one has renounced his parents.
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ਮਾਂ ਪਿਉ ਪਰਹਰਿ ਨਹਾਵਣਾ ਅਠਸਠਿ ਤੀਰਥ ਘੰਮਣ ਵਾਣੀ ॥
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maan piu parahari nhaavanaa atdasatdi teerad ghunman vaanee
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ਮਾਂ ਪਿਉ ਪਰਹਰਿ ਕਰੈ ਦਾਨ ਬੇਈਮਾਨ ਅਗਿਆਨ ਪਰਾਣੀ ।
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maan piu parahari karai daan bayeemaan agiaan paraanee
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ਮਾਂ ਪਿਉ ਪਰਹਰਿ ਵਰਤ ਕਰਿ ਮਰਿ ਮਰਿ ਜੰਮੈ ਭਰਮਿ ਭਲਾਣੀ ।
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maan piu parahari varat kari mari mari janmai bharami bhulaanee
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ਗਰ ਪਰਮੇਸਰ ਸਾਰ ਨ ਜਾਣੀ ॥੧੩॥
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guru paramaysaru saaru n jaanee ॥13॥
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That man (in fact) has not understood the essence of Guru and God.
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