Modern Sikh Girls

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From woman, man is born;

within woman, man is conceived; to woman he is engaged and married.
Woman becomes his friend; through woman, the future generations come.
When his woman dies, he seeks another woman; to woman he is bound.
So why call her bad? From her, kings are born.
From woman, woman is born; without woman, there would be no one at all.

Guru Nanak, Raag Aasaa Mehal 1, Page 473

These are words that were uttered by the founder of Sikhism, Sri Guru Nanak Dev in about 1499. So for Sikhs from that period, there has been compulsion to treat women as equals and gender discrimination was not allowed. Guru Gobind Singh's also confirmed the equality by saying the line "Manas Kee Jaat Sabhey Ekey Pehchanboo" - "Regard all of human race as one".

The following are some of the real facts that one finds in modern type of Sikh girls. Actually they should not truly be considered as Sikh but as they are born in Sikh family; for the world they are Sikhs:

Misuse of Equality with men

  • "Equality" does not mean "Similarity", Referring to Katha of Sant Singh Maskeen, Many of the morden girls make their personalities like boys; Mostly Bad Guys: they wear similar clothes; they behave in the same "macho" manner; same agressive stance, etc. It's not surprising that feature that develop in boys begin to develops in these mordern girls. Then they go to beauty parlours (Waxing, 'Cleansing', shaving, etc).

Nowadays, maximum women have hair on their body and they have to sit before 'hair butcher' (shortened to barbers) to kill their hair. Not only those ladies now Sikh women are also doing these things and continue to call themselves Sikh. Today many gals do not care about their clothes; it is there to wear only to show their body. The Gurus gave equality to women but also wrote a Bani called Suchajee & Kuchajee. By user:hpt_lucky

Some comments by Sikh girls?:

  • Misuse of equality? See, this is what frustrates me also. As a Sikh girl in the UK, I'm still in school and im at the stage where I question everything....

If Sikh men...can drink...why cant Sikh women? Sikhs are the most notorious drinkers!! its a fact!! If a man drinks so can his wife. If the man doesn't want his wife to drink he should stop also.

  • and a girl can do what a guy can do! Sikh girls are the daughters of Dhan Dhan Sri Guru Gobind Singh Ji Maharaj, they too have the spirit of a lion within them. people should not forget that! I hate being told that i cant do something when the implication of the reasoning is that im a girl, and if i was a boy i would be allowed to!
  • the day sikh boys learn to treat women with more respect, and show some admiration towards girls who conduct themselves with dignity is the day sikh girls wont feel the need to expose themselves.

It works both ways!

I am a canadian woman from British Columbia. My father is Sikh, my mom Jewish, my grandparents Janist and hindu in one set, and Russian Orthadox and Jew in the other. My family has a fair bit of religious diversity from wiccans and catholics to atheists. Many years ago I did study sociology and psychology. I was raised neither Sikh nor Jewish in the typical north american style of go to church for people getting married or funerals which often they had at christian churches despite their views because at the time there weren't always temples or churches for their own beliefs around.

I admit I am new to Sikhism as I didn't get much exposure as a child. But by what I have read if they believe in equality what is the problem? Men go topless sometimes or showing their chest. I have no intention of doing that though a woman in a city I used to live in challenged it and won the right in Maple Ridge, BC, Canada. I see nothing wrong with us wearing gender neutral cloths. I have seen some women with turbans though it is not so common here. I have seen men wear kilts and other things North American's would call "dresses" which are historical mens traditional clothing. Most of us I think are aware of how we dress. If I wear a sari it doesn't mean I'm being a seductress, etc. To me I am just wearing a sari and I like the way it looks. Its others jumping to conclusions perhaps because they aren't used to the style of dress. Is wearing a two piece bathing suit making you a person asking for trouble? I don't think so some men wear speedo's. Frankly I find those vulgar as they leave nothing tot he imagination and just don't look so great. But that is my personal opinion and I'm not going to be mean to a man for it. As for me I wear a one peice or a tank ini which is a tank that covers your mid section and a skirt like bottom. Its what I like and I know I don't look good in a bikini. When we came into this world we were nude with no regard for clothing unless we felt cold. Because it is cold out we are likely to leave this world clothed. Children are a clean slate without judgment which they form with life experience and mentoring. It isn't until we stigmatize the human body and sexualize it that it takes on that form. If we view it simply as a body that comes in all shapes and sizes, that allows us to reproduce, create, survive, etc then we do not see it as evil. It is man passing judgement that gives us conclusions that it is bad to be naked. Most of us don't walk around naked because it is too cold for it and impracticable. You can get hurt if your exposed so we cover ourselves for practical reasons. Greek statues are a homage to the state we enter into this world. Innocent and unassuming until we apply our own prejudices to it. For example do you view a doctor as lewd for asking you to expose your body so they can assess a problem? No they are not sexualizing you they are being matter of fact. So next time you look at man or woman and come to your conclusions ask if you are being objective and rational.

As we all know some sikh's cut their hair and some don't. Oh wait that is wrong. Lets be honest you all do even those that wear turbans and long braids. You trim your hair. My aunt grew her hair to about 2 inches above her ankle and her daughter let it go all the way to her bottom. It is indeed long but you do cut it. You say it needs to be trim or kept in a state where it wont become dirty by hitting the floor, etc. So before any of you get nasty on the hair issue remember that. Also the prohibition specifically said cutting hair. From what I have read it doesn't translate as anything besides cutting. This means waxing, electrolosis, and threading is no problem because it pulls hair. Now if you say it comments we should not kill hair. Hair is already dead so pulling it is not killing it. Hair is dead skin cells so is it alive or dead? Since this site wont let me enter the link. Search on Google for "Is hair dead skin" then look at the answers. I had originally pasted a link to Yahoo Answers which does clearly state hair is dead skin cells.

Aggressive stance? I have seen nothing that indicates that women aren't supposed to carry a dagger, and protect family. I don't think men or women are aggressive normally unless provoked or giving the illusion of it by playing around, joking, or acting. If you stand up to someone it isn't aggressive. You might call it that but it doesn't make it true. Doesn't it say we are to defend ourselves and our families?

Now for drinking and drugs. I thought in general it says we should do neither. So if men are drinking as someone mentions they are already violating the rules. As someone points out on one spot I read. Sikh's do not have sin only betterment. So perhaps they should try dealcholized products. I've tried fake wine and cider it is quite good but no alcohol. I don't smoke but I do have incense that I use occasionally(still makes smoke that is inhaled).

I agree that it says we are equal so why can't someone do something based on ability not on gender? Of course men can not carry and have babies in the same sense. But there is no reason why a man can not be a stay at home dad or have babies through adoption or fostercare. There is no reason a woman can't do a construction job or any of the old stereotyped male jobs. I think "you can't do that because your a girl" is a statement that should be a thing of the past. So is the comment that "boys don't do that you must be gay or something" is also out of line and just rude. We are not a sexual orientation or a gender. We are people. Some of us have a gift to offer in some area to our fellow man or nature. Telling them they can't do that due to gender or orientation is a very sad thing. What doe we all loose because of peoples discouragement?

As for respect it goes both ways. One of my half sisters and my mom are pretty awful in how they treat men. They view them as weak and as items to be used. I'm ashamed of them and their behavior. I have a half brother who is a misogynistic jerk. I similarly am ashamed of his attitude problem. - Saroja

Killing Hair